Ryan Scout_FTM

Ryan Sallans, activist and author, transitioned from female to male in 2005 and has recounted his life experiences in his newly released memoir, Second Son: Transitioning Toward My Destiny, Love and Life.

Since he began he has been committed to education surrounding medical, legal and social issues related to the transgender community. This blog serves as a guide and resource for individuals seeking guidance in the transgender community or for friends, family, lovers and partners who are eager to learn more about how a transition may impact the individual's life and those around them.


He has maintained a transition website since 2005 with the goal of helping others through his story and experiences. People can visit his site at: http://www.ryansallans.com
http://www.secondsonmemoir.com
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How many other TransGuys have these boxes in their closet? #needles #StroheckersRocks

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hi, I've been following your page for a while, and I was wondering: for several years I've felt like a man in a woman's body. I told my parents a while back, and they said they accepted it. I'm eighteen now and it's apparent they they changed their minds. I was to start t treatments, but I need to do it discreetly. Also I can't do shots because I faint everytime I see a needle. Could you give me some advice? I'm at a loss.
ryansallans ryansallans Said:

Sometimes parents can back away from supporting their child when the time comes for the actual physical transition to begin because it makes the transition real. No longer is it about clothing, hairstyles, chosen name and pronoun, with the medical interventions there is physical change and the fears of the unknown. This fear creates a wedge in families and so I am sorry this is what you are currently experiencing. If you are currently working with a therapist then I suggest talking to them about what is currently happening in your family and explore whether it would be helpful for you to have your parents come into a session. I also encourage parents to find a support group and their own therapist to work with. Your family is going through a transition separate from yours so they too should talk with someone and explore feelings instead of just sitting in fear that can be translated or interpreted as disapproval.

Regarding hormone therapy options, if you cannot handle injections there are other options. You can use compounded testosterone cream, gel or now there is a roll on that looks like deodorant (but it is not deodorant so you may have more natural body odors than usual on that option). The one potential barrier with theses transdermal options is costs. If insurance does not cover these methods then they may be difficult to access financially.

If shots are your only option due to money, then you can have the medical provider be the one to administer the shots, either intramuscular (in the muscle) or subcutaneous (under the skin). The one barrier to this is that you would then need to go to your doctor’s office for every shot and incur those office visit fees. So then another option would be to have a good friend or partner learn how to do the shots and have them do it for you while you have your eyes closed and maybe a pillow covering your face. The only downside to this option is, one finding that brave friend, and two knowing where they are every time you need a shot.

The very last option would be to have the implants inserted under your skin that need to then be replaced by a medical provider depending on how long they last. I personally don’t know anyone who has used Implants but they do exist.

I hope these options will help you when you talk with your provider. Good luck on your journey and continue to honor your truths.

Ryan

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I publish literature. OUTsider will be released tomorrow! Learn more about this amazing memoir and more at http://www.scoutpublushingllc.com

Just finished doing a professional staff development training on LGBT students at a high school. Back on the road for a long drive home. Time to listen to some radiohead.

Nebraska has made national headlines this week after the Nebraska School Activities Association board asked a high school speech contest winner to choose a different speech to perform for a live airing of the winners on our NETV station.

The good news is, the NSAA board retracted their request and Michael Barth was allowed to perform his state champion speech. You can watch it above.

I’m proud of Michael and hope that his speech opens up more conversations in the state of Nebraska (the state I live in) so that all youth can learn who they are, is who they are, and if they are LGBTQ they are not alone and they are beautiful. 

Even though the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission classifies mistreatment during the hiring process or in the workplace based on gender identity and expression as sex discrimination – which means it’s a violation of Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 – there aren’t explicit federal laws that protect transgender workers. Many who don’t identify with the gender they were assigned at birth struggle to find work.

Here are a few tips to assist with their search:
Find a job fair
Use word of mouth
Study up
Decide how to handle disclosure of your identity
Practice a stump speech
Be choosy with references
Be a squeaky wheel

Read the full article here: http://money.usnews.com/money/careers/articles/2014/04/03/how-to-manage-a-job-search-as-a-transgender-candidate

I was honored to be interviewed for it and hope it helps!

9 Portraits of Butch Women Proving “Masculinity is a Trait, Not a Gender “
"In an effort to both allocate space for and document the existence of masculine women, photographer Meg Allen created a powerful series of portraitsEntitled BUTCH, Allen’s series not only represents genderqueer women for a broader, heteronormative audience, but reaffirms butch identity within the queer community at a time when “butch flight,” or gender transitioning, is arguably becoming more and more commonplace. It is, as Allen says on her website, “an homage to the bull-daggers and female husbands before me, and to the young studs, gender queers and bois who continue to bloom into the present.”
I usually say form of expression, but they can use trait if they like . The other 8 images can be seen here. 

9 Portraits of Butch Women Proving “Masculinity is a Trait, Not a Gender “

"In an effort to both allocate space for and document the existence of masculine women, photographer Meg Allen created a powerful series of portraitsEntitled BUTCH, Allen’s series not only represents genderqueer women for a broader, heteronormative audience, but reaffirms butch identity within the queer community at a time when “butch flight,” or gender transitioning, is arguably becoming more and more commonplace. It is, as Allen says on her website, “an homage to the bull-daggers and female husbands before me, and to the young studs, gender queers and bois who continue to bloom into the present.”

I usually say form of expression, but they can use trait if they like . The other 8 images can be seen here

I’ve lived in Nebraska for thirty-five years (in August) and nine of those have been as a transgender man, educator and advocate for the LGBTQ community. I’ve conducted training and workshops for teachers and staff in our public schools from elementary to college. What I have seen and experienced is a large majority supporting our LGBTQ youth and teachers. So one can imagine how upset I became when I saw that our Nebraska Schools Activities Association has asked a state speech champion to change his speech which speaks of finding self and loving people for who they are for the televised spotlight of the winners because NSAA doesn’t want the public to perceive them as “endorsing” this! This is the same board that disallowed a policy allowing protection for transgender students. I would love to do some training with the board because their current decisions are not only harming kids and teachers, they are also basing their rationality on irrational ignorance.  

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hey. :) Your site seems to be down. I clicked the hormone therapy consultation link and it keeps giving me a 403 forbidden error.
ryansallans ryansallans Said: