After one of the best nights sleep that I have had in awhile I awoke to an email in my inbox stating that someone had posted a comment on one of my youtube videos. Usually comments are actually questions from viewers seeking more information, which I try to answer promptly, but this morning it was hate mail…it was a death threat (in my opinion). I am going to put a link to the video at the end of this post from which viewers can read the comment (I don’t want to tarnish any other social networks with the hateful words).
But before you go to the link and read it, I want everyone to recognize that when these types of messages are sent, what is being said really isn’t about you. What is being conveyed is an individual’s own fears and ignorance surrounding their own sexuality. For a 31-year-old to leave these types of comments and mention family tells me that they are struggling with their own family and are fearful that if they allow themselves to fully feel their feelings they are somehow going to “kill” their family. I want you to know that this isn’t what happens. What does metaphorically “kill” families are when people can’t be honest with themselves about their own feelings and identity. There is no way to have authentic relationships with ANYONE without first loving yourself.
Is coming out as trans hard for families, of course it is, but it isn’t any harder than what the trans person is going through themselves, and in the long run, it is easier for the family.
So, when reading the comment, it is okay to be hurt, to be angry, to be sad….by the end of the message however, try to direct it to the person ensuing the comments as they are the ones that are truly ignorant and manipulating their own life. If there is a death threat involved, please report it to your local police. People should not feel that writing it on a keyboard and pressing enter gives them the freedom to say what they want, this is not okay.